Often we think we have it all figured out. We think that at a certain age or a certain stage we should have accomplished x, y, and z. In this article, I show you how I turned 40 years old and thought that I was a failure, however, once I gave myself the permission to trust MY DESIRES I realized what I really wanted.
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This year I entered into my 43rd year of life. I am 43 years young.
25 years ago I had my life planned. I told my family I would be married to my college sweetheart at 23… he didn’t exist yet but I was foreshadowing…
I told them that he and I would have children when I was age 25 because of course, we would want 2 years of married life and boom pregnancy would just come.
Oh and I told them I would be some kind of corporate executive before the age of 30.
Then life happened…
Today, I am 43 years old. I am Single and I have left the Corporate Executive World. I am in the second year of working Full Time in my Transformation Business. No Husband. No Children.
I thought I failed at life..I dreaded conversations with friends where the first thing they would ask would be “Who was I dating?” or “Was I on any dating apps.”
I was turning 40 and I was numb. I didn’t know how to feel about where I was in life. I felt disconnected because the life that I was conditioned to want wasn’t going to happen the way it was “supposed to happen.”
I allowed myself to feel that my life didn’t matter because I didn’t have any children. I felt invisible because I wasn’t sharing my life with a partner. I felt wrong for not being where everyone else thought I should be.
Finally, I realized that this was NO BUENO!
I was making myself wrong for the life I was living.
Look…
I’m a go-getter. If I REALLY WANT something, I GO GET IT. There isn’t anything that I REALLY REALLY wanted, that I didn’t ALIGN WITH and MANIFEST IN MY LIFE.
It was time for me to connect with what I REALLY wanted.
Did I want to be married or was marriage just something that I was expected to want?
Did I really want children or was I wanting what someone else wanted for me?
In that quiet moment I asked myself if I could have, be and do ANYTHING that I wanted in MY LIFE without regards to anyone else what would I want?
When I allowed myself to tap into what I truly wanted, I realized it was NEVER the 2.2 Kids or the Husband.
My life is freaking awesome.
The life that I am LIVING is EXACTLY RIGHT.
I am EXACTLY ON MY PATH and living EXACTLY WHAT I AM ALIGNED WITH.
It is COMPLETELY OK that I don’t know EXACTLY where I am going.
I do not have it PLANNED OUT as I did at 18 years old.
I know that I get to Choose from my SOUL.
I get to TRUST that God is in me and my TRUE SOUL DESIRES are SAFE GUIDANCE as to my next steps.
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Set aside 30 minutes for yourself. Commit to taking this moment for YOURSELF and no one else.
Get comfortable in a place where you won’t be disturbed. Sit with your back straight. Close your eyes.
Connecting back to your present moment can be as easy as taking the following steps:
Ask Guidance (God, The Universe, Source Energy) for awareness.
Say that you are open to see what you haven’t wanted to see.
Tell Guidance that you are ready to acknowledge what you have been avoiding.
With your eyes closed, feel your body fully. Feel whatever emotion you are feeling and feel where it is in your body.
Now ask yourself… What do I really want? What do I desire right now?
Tell the truth to yourself! Sometimes it is the hardest thing to actually tell YOURSELF the TRUTH about what you REALLY WANT.
Give yourself permission to NOT CARE what anyone else thinks right now.
Allow yourself to know what you really desire.
No more checking boxes or living your life how you are expected to live it.
You get to choose what works for you…Your Desires come from The Divine.
Your desires are birthed within you because there is a YOU WHO IS LIVING THE LIFE doing EXACTLY what you desire to do.
Be happy with YOU and YOUR DESIRES.
I coach many women single and married with and without children. But this message is directed to all of my single ladies YOUNG and those who have lived MORE YEARS ON THIS EARTH.
=> You get to choose.
=> You matter.
=> You are loved and adore.
=> Your life matters.
=> You are infinitely loved and supported just as everyone else in this world.
There isn’t one formula, one way of life, or one answer that fits the mold for everyone.
You get to DECIDE what your life looks like and you get to CHANGE YOUR MIND when it suits you gives you the POWER to co-create the life YOU LOVE TO LIVE.
Hugs, Kisses & all the Feelz,
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