Focus on What You Want

FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT

Focus, Surrender, Do You (Your Soul) Series: Part 1 – Focusing On the Past will Manifest More Past

Hello Gorgeous Soul!

In this article, I talk about one of the most important factors in manifesting what you want. This 3 part series focuses on one of the most hated Bachelors (which is totally unwarranted in my opinion) Arie Luyendyk.

Here is Part 1.

For those of you unfamiliar with the show (who are you??) The Bachelor, it is a show where the main suitor has 25-30 women that he dates and he slowly eliminates them until he has 2 left and then he proposes to the last one who is THE ONE. In this case, Arie was in love with the final two women.

Long story short, Arie fell in love with two women. He wanted to be with Lauren B, however he proposed to Becca K. However, after a few weeks of mourning that loss he breaks up with Becca and goes back to Lauren.

FOCUS, SURRENDER, DO YOU (YOUR SOUL) SERIES

In this 3 article series, we will go behind the ENERGETICS of the Situation. This is where the fun starts and where you can learn how to reduce the DRAMA in your life and shift to co-creating what you REALLY WANT and NOT what you DON’T WANT.

Part 1: Focus: The Important Key to Manifest What You Want: I will show you why Lauren focusing on what she doesn’t want drove the man she loved into the arms of the other woman. (YOU ARE HERE)

Part 2:Surrender: How to get your ex back: I will show you how letting go played a BIG ROLE in Lauren and Arie reuniting. Spoiler Alert: Lauren and Arie are now married and about to have their first child.

Part 3: Do You (Your Soul): 4 Necessary Components of Living from Soul: I will talk about why Arie is the most “hated” Bachelor but he is living his best life despite the haters. Following your Soul is a Key Component to this.

This article is all about Part 1: FOCUS.

Find out:

1) How Focusing on the past creates more of the past
2) Focus on what you want
3) Shift before it is too late
4) Four (4) Ways to shift your focus from the Past
5) Journal Prompt to becoming aware and shifting

ARIE’S 2 LOVES

Lauren B (left) Arie (center) Becca K (right) – picture courtesy of ABC.com

Arie was in love with the idea of Becca K. She was easy. She was confident in his love for her. She seemed to know her worth. She seemed to be sure of herself. His family liked her outgoing nature. Her energy was popping, etc etc.

Arie was very in love with Lauren B. But she was challenging. She was unsure. She wasn’t as confident. His family adored her but she seemed quiet. She wasn’t as bubbly. She seemed to need reassurance. She seemed that she would not fit as easily into Arie’s life.

FOCUS ON THE PAST CREATES MORE OF THE PAST

Lauren B (my personal favorite Season 22 of The Bachelor) and Arie Luyendyk- the Bachelor had this electric connection. It was a deep connection that could be felt. The way he looked at her was the way you wished the man you love looked at you. He was drawn to her and she to him. The love was undeniable.

Unfortunately, Lauren B has experienced some massive heartbreak in her 25 years. Because of her previous bad experiences, she was hesitant to open her heart. She was very quiet and closed off and Arie had to constantly reassure her of his feelings and his love.

Despite knowing how Arie felt about her and knowing that she was in love with him, Lauren B continually focused on the possibility of Arie leaving her at the end of the show. Lauren allowed her painful past experiences to cloud her beautiful present.

When you focus on your past experiences, you manifest more experiences similar to your past. This is why you hear quotes about doing something different in order to manifest something different.

I like to say that you have to feel, think, intend and act differently in order to shift into something different.

By Lauren focusing on what she experienced in the past, heartbreak, heartache, being hurt and not the one selected, she manifested more of the same. Lauren’s persistent focus on being hurt or having been hurt didn’t allow her to shift the reality where she loving and being loved by the love of her life.

Focus On What You Want

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FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT

Focusing on what you do not want can ruin even the most shoo-in situations. In my article, 5 Ways to Improve Your Focus I provide 5 practical ways you can improve your focus. Check this out to look for more ways.

If you are reading this you are most likely very very aware of the Law of Attraction – like attracts like. However, the Law of Vibration is a law that you most likely do not pay attention to.

The Law of Attraction and the Law of Vibration work TOGETHER.

Everything is energy. Everything is vibrating at a specific Vibrational Frequency. In order to align with something, your Vibration has to match the Vibration of that thing, situation, experience, etc.

What is Vibration

Your Vibration is made up of your Thoughts which makes up your Emotions which creates your Feelings. Then you also have your Intentions/Decisions, your Desires, and your Actions. All of this makes your Vibration.

Lauren’s thoughts, emotions and feelings were all focused on LOSING Arie. She was focused on what would happen if Arie selected someone else. Her vibration was aligned with loss.

Focusing on what you do not want can ruin even the most shoo-in situations.

The way you manifest the life of your dreams is to ALIGN your VIBRATION with what you DESIRE.

You cannot focus on what you DO NOT WANT and create the life you DO .

What you focus on GROWS.

You GET what you FOCUS on.

So FOCUS on what you DESIRE.

SHIFT BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE

Basically, Lauren was worried that now that she opened her heart to Arie she would lose him. She was 100% vulnerable with him but her focus was all about what if he chooses the other woman.

Her thoughts were focused on losing Arie in the end so what happened? She constantly thought of what if he didn’t choose her. What if her heart was broken?

Eventually, Lauren goes to Arie, she opens up. The couple has the most amazing last two dates. For him, she is finally the woman he has known was there all along.

Lauren opens up the way he has been waiting for BUT unfortunately for her it was too late. The energetic momentum was too strong in the opposite direction and he was carried away into the arms of Becca.

When the time came for Arie to choose, he proposed Becca. When you watch Arie as he proposed to Becca, he didn’t look like a man proposing to the love of his life. He looked distracted. He looked like a man who wished the other woman (Lauren B) was standing in front of him. But with the vibration that was consuming Lauren, the energy wouldn’t allow him to go in the direction where he wanted to go.

4 WAYS TO SHIFT YOUR FOCUS FROM THE PAST

(1) GET IT OUT ON PAPER

Use your writing to release it. Give it a voice. Look at it and acknowledge it. Then tell yourself the truth.

(2) GET MOVING

Exercise and move stagnant energy. Take 30 minutes to shift your focus from the past to the here and now. Take the time to take care of YOU.

(3) TALK TO SOMEONE

Hire a Coach or talk to a high vibration friend. Working with a coach can help you see things differently and shift immensely quickly.

(4) LET IT GO

Surrendering and letting go of the resistance will make all of the difference. In the next article, Part 2 I discuss

JOURNAL PROMPTS

1) Where am I focusing on what I do not want?

2) What do I really desire?

3) What ways can I shift my focus to what I truly desire?

Awareness is EVERYTHING. Just becoming aware of whatever it is allows you to CHOOSE something different. It is all in the DECISION. If you are creating drama in an area of your life, you can acknowledge it and choose whether or not you want to continue.

HOW DID LAUREN ATTRACT HIM BACK

As you may know (SPOILER ALERT) Arie and Lauren ended up getting back together. Looking at the situation and listening to her interviews, the ENERGETICS ARE CLEAR. Want to know how Lauren “got her ex back”? Check out Part 2 tomorrow.

I get so many questions about how do I get my EX Back. How can attract the guy I want? In Part 2 of this Focus, Surrender, Do You (Your Soul) Series, I will talk about what Lauren did to allow Arie to come back into her life. They are married and at the time of this article expecting a baby girl and super happy.

WHAT TO EXPECT

Like we did in this article, I will go behind the ENERGETICS of getting your ex back and provide 9 Practical and Woo Woo Steps to aligning with receiving the love of your life. This is where the fun starts and where you can learn how reduce the DRAMA in your life and shift to co-creating what you REALLY WANT and NOT what you DON’T WANT.

Part 1: I talked about why Lauren focusing on what she doesn’t want drove the man she loved into the arms of the other woman.

UP NEXT

Part 2: I will show you how letting go played a BIG ROLE in Lauren and Arie reuniting. Spoiler Alert: Lauren and Arie are now married and about to have their first child.

Part 3: I will talk about why Arie is the most “hated” Bachelor but he is living his best life despite the haters. Following your Soul is a Key Component to this.

Until next time Remember your only job is to FEEL the FEELINGS, Be HER NOW and take AlignedSoul Action.

Hugs, Kisses & all the Feelz,